There are many reasons why life may feel out of control: your job is not doing as well as you would like, your relationships are not functioning well, your loved ones are sick or some have passed away, you are stressed and not seeing an end in sight and the list goes on.
For many of us, the pace of life has accelerated to a level where we exist in a buzz of worry that we have lost sight of our purpose. The anxiety we feel, in turn, makes it difficult to get things done, creating a spiral of inaction and darkness.
What we need is the ability to cut through it all and find emotional, spiritual and physical balance. We need to think more clearly and advocate for ourselves so we can take a course of action that aligns with our purpose.
Even though changing this rut seems impossible, listed below are ideas to help reengage in life and to start moving forward finding and thriving in peace:
1-Surround yourself with friends, family, and communities who encourage you to reach your full potential, nurture your talents, affirm your value. But also give you a reality check when you’ve behaved badly or are especially stuck in negative thinking.
You can also get involved with your community through volunteering or just talking with people and neighbors. This can seemingly feel impossible, yet this is one of the fastest ways to get life back in control. These positive social interactions will improve your state of mind and physical
health- two critical building blocks of a fulfilling life.
2-Learn to love and accept yourself. Love is the medicine that accelerates healing. There is no better medicine than unconditional love. Not I love you if, or I love myself if. There is no “if”. It is just love. Here are some suggestions to learn a deeper self-love:
- Stop comparing yourself to others.
- Allow yourself to make mistakes
- Don’t be afraid to let go of toxic people.
- Don’t always believe the opinions of others.
- Learn from the past, but do not live there.
3-Clean your space. Your physical space reflects your mental health. Clearing the clutter also clears the mind. Much of the time, we keep things because we can’t let them go. Does everything in your space bring joy? Many eastern scriptures suggest that by holding onto bad clutter is like hanging onto the past and preventing us from living in the present and embracing the future. Taking charge of the energy in our spaces helps us live in the present and live a more fulfilling life. So, where do you start?
- Choose one small space at a time.
- Make it a goal to keep one item and let one go.
- Build in incentives – Listen to podcasts, music or a dinner out when one area is done.
- Have a declutter buddy. They can help you let go of unnecessary, unused items.
4-Get active and build momentum. Plan and write down your goals. What do you want your life to be? Mel Robbins book “The 5 Second Rule” has some inspirational ways to get momentum and to keep moving forward. Mel tells her story about her morning routine: “Instead of rolling over and sleeping in, Robbins counts silently to herself, “five, four, three, two, one.” This simple act distracts you from anxieties and redirects your attention to what you should be doing, instead of submitting to instantly gratifying urges. By continually doing this, you can break a negative cycle and create new and better habits.” This is like a blast off. When you reach the number 1 you are blasting off. You get up and start moving. “Robbins also used the five-second rule to stop avoiding exercise and to push herself outdoors for regular jogs. And when she felt like procrastinating on updating her résumé, it was, “five, four, three, two, one” …blast-and she got to work.”
5- Live your principles. Many of us feel an emptiness inside each of us; a longing for something more. That emptiness is often a result of not living what we believe. Everything we think, everything we do, has a consequence. If we make a choice, we have an outcome or a reaction. If we don’t make a choice, we have an outcome or a reaction. We are going to
experience the consequences of our actions in one way or another. You find so much more peace in life when your words match your actions. You gain greater peace and less wanting when living your principles.
6- Change our perspective. Do we really know our purpose? Or are we letting our ego, society, or friends tell us our purpose? Instead take a step back and re-evaluate what you consider your purpose. Is it really you or something expected of you?
When you look deeper inside yourself, you will truly see how to gain back the control you feel you lost. In terms of peace of mind, it is much greater than attaining the ego or expectations of outside influences. We really should be true to ourselves and follow the steps above to unwind ourselves from the stress and pressures we face.
These ideas may seem simple or maybe to some it may be overwhelming. We can find greater control in our world by taking one step at a time. Work at your own pace, celebrate the wins, and be grateful for them. Don’t look for what is broken, look for what is working. You will be absolutely amazed at how much control you do have in your life and how much more you will be gaining. One step at a time.
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